Shit is Going to Happen
We have no control over that, which often feels incredibly shitty and gives us an overwhelming sense of powerlessness. It’s easy to feel swallowed up by events in our lives, to be consumed with our powerlessness or driven insanely to attempt to prove otherwise.
We can feel like victims, that life is happening to us.
This seems rather unfair and disheartening. It seems really fucked up that despite our best efforts life shows up beating us senselessly and unjustly…
Our cars fall apart, loved ones die, our kids get sick, our friends move away, we get cheated on and fall into debt or lose our jobs…
Sometimes people who typically live unaware of, or generally disinterested in ‘God’, become angry at him. This so called loving ‘God’ has now given them a reason to distrust and dislike him. This ‘God’ appears to be heartless, cruel, and unfair. How could a ‘God’ so good allow such shit to happen to us?
It’s a pretty miserable way to go about living with a negative, self pitying mindset.
‘Victim’ is a pretty abrasive and unpleasant word, wether or not we have been victims of other peoples’ choices, we don’t like to feel like one. The truth is that whether or not you’ve considered this ‘God’ concept, either way it isn’t some vindictive spiritual blob that is hurting us; it’s other people, and it is often ourselves.
I’ve found that there is a simple (not at all easy) cure…A way to get out of the victim mentality and empower ourselves. It’s a matter of changing our perspective.
Instead of thinking, “Why is this happening to me?” try “Why is this happening FOR me?”. (There is a gift we can receive from any circumstance if you are willing to look for it.)
A wise woman has helped me see that changing my thoughts has the power to change my reality… it has the power to change how I feel about life.
I can not change what is happening, but I can change how I choose to think about it, and how I choose to respond to it. In this I am empowered, I am free, and can be truly happy. The beauty of true freedom and happiness is that it’s a gift I alone can give myself, and when I truly own it, not one person or thing in this life can take it away from me unless I choose to allow it.
I am significantly flawed and have fallen into these traps, but today I am practicing changing my thoughts and I’ve found the results to be extremely beautiful. ….End rant.
Babies are Interesting…
Please don’t ever believe that you are stuck. ‘Stuck’ is a brilliant deception with one guaranteed result, and that is despair. Stuck is a murderer of hope, and when hope is slain, so are we.
We have all been born with the gift of choice; we’re empowered beings with the capacity to do such wonderful things in this life. We also have the ability to destroy, corrupt, and decay.
If you are going to be here, which you are; why wouldn’t you choose to have the most beautiful experience possible, to tell the most badass fucking story ever?! Why wouldn’t you choose to see what if feels like to ride a bike, fall in love, get raging mad sometime, cry really hard because you chose to fall in love and you’ve lost and it fucking hurts; find quirky people and laugh really hard, listen to music and read stories, build fires, sit in the woods, go faster than the speed limit, stare at a baby (because babies are strange and fascinating and fresh)…Why would you choose to be miserable?
I know it sounds stupidly simple and almost insulting, but the truth is that if you’re life is miserable you can chose to change it.
I hope you choose to experience some really incredible things while you’re here, why not?
Bearcat- I Am Me